Elisa Bellandi is a ‘smart and beautiful’ teenager according to her doting father. She
dreams of one day being a lawyer or psychologist. And it is not hard to
understand why. Because in many ways she is very different from many
the knowledge that not only was she a ‘mistake’ baby, conceived when her
mother had already passed 40, but that she survived both a miscarriage & a failed abortion.
And if that were not bad enough to
deal with, her parents are suing the hospital claiming that a botched
operation caused ‘psychological trauma’ to Elisa’s mother and father, in
a case that has shocked Italy.
live in the Italian beach town of Rimini with Elisa, are demanding
£700,000 in compensation for not just the psychological trauma of having
a 2nd child, but also the material deprivation it caused to their
2000 after the couple, who already had a grown-up son, unexpectedly
discovered that they were expecting a baby.
medically necessary to save the life of Aurora, already 43. They also
felt that they could simply not afford another child.
the termination. But, by the time they discovered it had failed, it was
too late to repeat the procedure under Italian law, which forbids
abortion after 21 weeks.
problematic and the couple successfully sued the doctors responsible for
‘physical harm to the mother’ and received £85,000 (€120,000) in
damages in 2008.
they are still struggling financially as a result of Elisa’s birth, are
taking a hospital in Alessandria, to Italy’s highest court.
‘The doctors brought her into the
world. They should provide for her study and indispensable needs until
she is 18. It’s her right’, her father Giuseppe told MailOnline.
‘I don’t want money for myself. I want money for her. You can’t have a child and not want to give them everything. You have to.’
the family saying that millions of couples have had an unwanted or
unexpected child and have striven to provide for them without resorting
to legal action.
‘We were told that we had had to
have an abortion. Other couples who get pregnant get to decide if they
will keep it or not. We didn’t get to decide anything. They told us –
first “You’re pregnant and you must have an abortion”. Then, “You can’t
have an abortion”. They decided everything. As they decided everything
they should bear the responsibility.’
‘I am not trying to become a
millionaire. I just want enough for my daughter to be able to study. In
Italy the children have to take on their parents’ debts when they die. I
don’t want that for her.’
|With her older brother-Marco|
While many parents would be loathe
for their child to know she was unwanted, especially in a country like
Italy where children are especially indulged, the Bellandis have always
told Elisa the truth about her birth and insist the lawsuit is in their
daughter’s best interests.
for 5 years and, tragically, Aurora has developed Parkinson’s disease,
which is now in an advanced stage.
surviving on disability and housing handouts as well as help from their
son Marco, now 34, who is a manager in a local factory.
give Elisa a decent standard of living, allow her to study and fulfil
her dream to go on to university.
‘At the moment we can’t make plans for the future. We can’t think beyond getting through tomorrow.
‘We will always try to do the
impossible for her as she’s our daughter. To me, her mother and Marco,
she’s our little queen. We try and make sure she wants for nothing. But
we don’t have enough.’ ‘They say I don’t love her because I wanted an
abortion. How can they say I don’t love my own daughter?
‘The doctors try and make us feel
guilty for making a case. They made a mistake. They brought her into the
world. If they did do an examination after the abortion, as they say
they did, how was she born? What did they examine? A rabbit?’
‘She is a smart, beautiful girl. She is a leader among her friends. She is not the problem. They are the problem.’
on Elisa’s maturity, insisting she can cope, although many parents would
argue that teenagers can be much more sensitive than they appear.
‘She knows everything about the story. She is not upset by it. If she hides it so well, she should be a professional actress.’
Certainly on the surface she seems well balanced and insists she is not upset by the case.
dishes from the table, she said: ‘They make it sound terrible as if I
didn’t know I was going to be aborted. But I’ve always known. I’ve
always felt loved by my family. We just can’t afford everything.’
Sourc- Mail Online