Police investigate Facebook post requesting for potential interest to adopt a 4 year old girl


    A family in Dubuque, Iowa was reportedly investigated by police recently
    after a member of the clan, whose name has been withheld in the local
    news story, wrote a post on Facebook that offered up their 4-year-old
    for adoption. 
    “I need some help,” began her note, posted over the weekend to the
    private, 4,000-member DBQ Mamas group in Dubuque and re-published

    “Does anyone know a family who would like to adopt a 4 year old girl. My
    parents adopted her but got new jobs and they have no time for her. I
    have 3 kids of my own and can not handle another. Serious inquiries

    Dubuque Police Lt. Scott Baxter said his department got “several calls”
    about the post and dispatched an officer to investigate.

    “We determined no criminal act had been committed and there was not
    sufficient probable cause to warrant an arrest or charge,” Baxter said.
    “The welfare of the 4-year-old was checked and determined satisfactory.
    To my knowledge, the 4-year-old remained with the adopted parents
    referenced by the person who made the post.”

    Baxter adds that the police department notified the Department of Human
    Services about the post on Facebook. “Obviously the post was not well
    thought out, as so many aren’t on social media,” he says.

    In a later post (removed by DBQ Mamas administrators, as was the
    original note, after law enforcement got involved), the woman appeared
    to backpedal on her intent to re-home the preschooler via social media.
    “Let me rephrase,” she wrote,“I’m not selling a kid, it was to help find
    adoption ideas. So calling the police to receive suggestions was
    ridiculous. She’s safe and fine. So thank you for your help.”
    But upset about the incident has yet to die down.
    Hundreds of commenters forwarded and posted notes in response to KWWL’s
    article about the incident on Facebook, where remarks ran from outrage
    to pity, for everyone involved.

    “Children are not objects you get then discard when you just don’t have the time,” fumed one commenter.

    “YOU BE A RESPONSIBLE ADULT AND MAKE TIME.” Another commenter joined
    others urging critics to reserve their judgment. “While it’s extremely
    sad that someone is giving up a child maybe they are trying to give the
    child a better life, maybe that’s the absolute best thing that they can

    It’s not clear in this case whether or not re-homing, the process of
    moving an adopted child to another home, was at play. And it is
    something that’s “not common, thank goodness,” Adam Pertman, President
    of the National Center on Adoption and Permanency said.

    “But it does happen, and it usually happens because a parent doesn’t
    know what else to do. It’s not jettisoning a kid because they didn’t do
    their homework. It’s that something awful is happening and the parents
    don’t know where to turn. Typically it’s after they’ve tried everything
    and just want to help the child get parented properly.”




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