after a member of the clan, whose name has been withheld in the local
news story, wrote a post on Facebook that offered up their 4-year-old
private, 4,000-member DBQ Mamas group in Dubuque and re-published
“Does anyone know a family who would like to adopt a 4 year old girl. My
parents adopted her but got new jobs and they have no time for her. I
have 3 kids of my own and can not handle another. Serious inquiries
Dubuque Police Lt. Scott Baxter said his department got “several calls”
about the post and dispatched an officer to investigate.
“We determined no criminal act had been committed and there was not
sufficient probable cause to warrant an arrest or charge,” Baxter said.
“The welfare of the 4-year-old was checked and determined satisfactory.
To my knowledge, the 4-year-old remained with the adopted parents
referenced by the person who made the post.”
Baxter adds that the police department notified the Department of Human
Services about the post on Facebook. “Obviously the post was not well
thought out, as so many aren’t on social media,” he says.
original note, after law enforcement got involved), the woman appeared
to backpedal on her intent to re-home the preschooler via social media.
adoption ideas. So calling the police to receive suggestions was
ridiculous. She’s safe and fine. So thank you for your help.”
article about the incident on Facebook, where remarks ran from outrage
to pity, for everyone involved.
“Children are not objects you get then discard when you just don’t have the time,” fumed one commenter.
“YOU BE A RESPONSIBLE ADULT AND MAKE TIME.” Another commenter joined
others urging critics to reserve their judgment. “While it’s extremely
sad that someone is giving up a child maybe they are trying to give the
child a better life, maybe that’s the absolute best thing that they can
moving an adopted child to another home, was at play. And it is
something that’s “not common, thank goodness,” Adam Pertman, President
of the National Center on Adoption and Permanency said.
“But it does happen, and it usually happens because a parent doesn’t
know what else to do. It’s not jettisoning a kid because they didn’t do
their homework. It’s that something awful is happening and the parents
don’t know where to turn. Typically it’s after they’ve tried everything
and just want to help the child get parented properly.”